Wednesday, 29 August 2012

Honest Blogging

I've always made a point of being completely honest on my blog. Right from day one, post one, I made sure what I wrote was the truth. That still stands and after five and a half years of blogging I want you to be truthful with me. I've no intention of giving up on the blog, nor have I thought about taking a break, but I'm starting to get a little disheartened by the fact that I don't feel as motivated to blog anymore. I read and comment on so many blogs but recently life has simply got in the way. People say don't give up, take a break, and I tell myself often that blogging isn't the bee-all and end-all to my life's interests, not to mention that it's nowhere near as personal as it once was. Perhaps I want it to go back to how it used to be, the days before Twitter links and Facebook promotions, advertising yourself at every available opportunity, feeling a need to have your blog in ranks, lists, retweeted, linked to, included in the Top this and Top that. It all gets very tiring. There are so many interactive platforms around today that it's impossible to keep up. And if there's one circle of blogging pals in particular that are all involved with a certain platform, like Google+ for example, a platform I really don't understand or can fathom out, then this is bound to mean you're missing out.

Building a blog from scratch takes hard work, back-breakingly hard work actually. It takes months and sometimes years to establish a blog in a community and with the amount of blogs around today it's inevitable that some blogs won't get a look in. I've enjoyed five years of interaction and in that time I've joined Twitter, Facebook, Google+ and several other platforms. But I'm really not sure it's made a difference. I'm proud to be included in lists, that means I've achieved something. I'm also proud to be a part of online communities, mainly because I've met some very nice people. Still, part of me often wants to turn the blogging clock back to the days when blogging was simpler. I've been competitive in my life but even I, as naive as I am, do realise that if the competition is vast enough, the chances of staying in the big pond become remote. I'm not going to stop swimming. But please join me for a front crawl now and then, back stroke really isn't my thing.

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  1. Oh goodness, I have no idea with how to keep up with other bloggers. The most I do to promote is stick a link to posts of twitter, one on my facebook page and...ummm...that's it. I really wish it was all just about the writing because the rest of the stuff makes me feel like I'm drowning in a sea of stuff that everyone apart from me seems to know about. Lisa @http://www.howtobeadomesticdisgrace.blogspot.com

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    1. It always used to be about the writing, Lisa, but I fear it's more about the competition these days - who has the best blog etc.

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  2. I come from the opposite end of the spectrum to you, in that i am very new to blogging, not even six months yet! When started I thought it was the writing that would be the challenge- turns out that's the easy bit! I got so much advice at the start about promotion all over the place that I suddenly felt like I had a full time job- I don't have time for a full time job! I enjoy the social interaction of twitter so I focus my activities there, and leave the rest more or less alone!

    So much to learn, and people like your good self have been so welcoming and friendly! That has been the highlight for me- I had no idea of the support network I would gain- lovely!

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    1. Yes, it certainly feels like a full time job sometimes. I used to read hundreds of blogs a week but I just haven't got time anymore.

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  3. I don't do so much advertising now, and there are less comments, but more commenters on Twitter or privately by email, than the blog for me too nowadays.

    Life is not easy at the mo, so I will doggy paddle beside your front crawl, as I too won't give up...

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    1. You see this is what gets my goat about blogging and social media - leaving comments on Twitter and FB is all great and very much appreciated, but it takes away the point of the actual blog!

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  4. I couldn't live without my networking! I have met so many great people from all walks of life through different social sites and have no regrets! Love all my faithful followers and new found friends and glad social media exists!!

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    1. Same here, Melissa. I love networking too and wouldn't want to be without it.

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  5. I don't do Facebook or twitter so I really am not the right person to be talking to. However, I think that all those other things take people away from Blogging, which is a great shame.
    Maggie X

    Nuts in May

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    1. It is a shame, Maggie. I've been harping on about it for some time now. Remember the good old days when we used to catch up with a circle of blogs and none of them were ever advertised? Those days were simple.

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  6. Hey! Without you and your wonderful blog I wouldn't have as many interests as I do! You and your blog and your fab writing have introduced me to so many lovely people in the world of literature. My blog has helpe me make tons of friends in the special needs world too adn found invaluable support. I couldn't survive without my blog. Its my therapy. But, you are definitely right. Blogging has become so much more competitive, even in the short while I have been doing it. Although, I have to say, I do actually love that. Maybe I'm a sadist? lol

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    1. That's a great thing about blogging; being able to connect with people you have something in common with, like special needs parents for example. It also introduces you to people you wouldn't otherwise interact with.

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  7. It's not You or any of us...It's the FaceBook, Twitter, etc that's stealing the bloggers away. I don't have anything to promote so I really don't mind. Everyone's getting less traffic these days.
    Oh well, it'll pick up come Winter I think...
    hughugs

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    1. I don't think it'll ever pick up, Donna, not now that there are so many social media sites to be a part of. I really do think Twitter in particular is slowly killing off blogging, especially the interactive aspect of it.

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  8. Over the summer I've taken whole weeks off when life was just too busy - I have at least two instances of Silent Sunday to Silent Sunday with nothing in between. Do you know what? It didn't matter. I didn't lose loads of readers and often the week off was followed by renewed enthusiasm in which I blogged every day so the numbers didn't suffer in any way. I'm seriously thinking of slowing down now that work is starting again (I'm a teacher) and maybe just posting twice a week. There is no doubts that other things suffer when I blog too much.

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    1. I know what you mean; it's been a busy summer here too and I've had little time to blog these last 6 weeks. It doesn't matter, though I have lost (and recently gained again) some blog and Twitter followers!

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  9. I'm having a dry spell with my blog right now. I haven't posted in about a week, and for me that feels like a lot. But you're right, life DOES get in the way. My job keeps me busy enough to barely have time for my writing on the side, and so blogging, as much as I love it, takes a back seat. And yet the amount of posts I read on a daily basis stays as active as ever. *Sigh* I have learned that sometimes I do just need to walk away for a little while, no matter how hard it is for me. And when I do come back, it'll be like I never left. The writing life - and blogging life - is like that for me.

    I recently made Facebook pages for all 3 of my blogs, and I've definitely seen a growth in readership since doing that, especially for my photography blog. It makes me wish I'd done that sooner, but whatever.

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    1. We definitely get used to publishing a post regularly and when we don't it feels odd! But that's something that seems to cause issues in blogging with some people, as they feel they have to blog often otherwise they'll lose followers and blog-cred. Taking away the whole aspect of enjoying the blog.

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  10. smiles...it is cyclic you know...almost 4 years here...people come and go...that is the sadness for me...when people just disappear...esp if i have been reading them for a while....i used to post every day...now i do 4 or 5...eh i think we all just have to find our rhythm...

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    1. You're absolutely right, Brian. I've had lots of people pass by this blog over the years, some have stayed (like you) and some have gone, but that's okay, it's life.

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  11. I hear you and I relate. As Dory says: 'just keep swimming, just keep swimming' :)

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  12. I'm keeping it simple, or I hope I am. I love chatting to other bloggers - who cares how some random number generator ranks you? ;-)

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    1. Lots of people care I reckon. That's why blogging has become so competitive. But they only care because they're either a) at the bottom of the list, or b) in it.

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  13. I agree. Have not the slightest clue what google+ is all about, although obviously I've joined... not really sure why though!! i'd love more readers and more comments of course, but can't afford to lose sleep over that with everything else that goes on. I've made a facebook page but not really promoted it or my blog all that much. Can hardly believe I've been writing for nearly 3 years... but it's mainly for me still, to get it off my chest, and to share with family. I enjoy reading other blogs so much, especially yours, and if I started concentrating on promting 'me' that's what I'd lose out on. So I'll carry on 'ticking along', thank you :-)

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    1. Absolutely, Steph. I do promote my blog on FB, Twitter, Google+ and Britmums occasionally, and I get traffic from Twitter and sometimes FB. But because I don't understand G+ or the way traffic is sourced, I have no idea where anyone else is coming from!

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  14. I agree, I am new and sometimes it feel like you have to almost compete. I have vowed to be me and keep it real. I will swim beside you and chill out! But I do love twitter, met some wonderful people, like you! x

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    1. Do keep it real, they are the best blogs in my opinion. And I've also met some wonderful people on social media - so it really isn't a bad thing to promote occasionally, but interaction is much more important in my opinion.

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  15. I guess it does get a bit tiring after a while, although I am not there yet. I think it is extremely important to let *life get in the way*. Don't get me wrong, it is truly wonderful to be part of a blogging community, however, to get out of the house and meet my friends or take the dog for a walk on the beach is vital to me. I am not bothered about promoting my blog.. the biggest enjoyment I get from it is the writing AND the wonderful people I have meet in the community. CJ, you have a very interesting blog... but it is your blog, your choice... you do what you feel is right for you! :)
    xx

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    1. It's what I often hammer home to newer bloggers - your blog, your rules, therefore don't let the blogging police dictate what you blog.

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  16. I really like the social interaction on twitter but find it can be difficult to keep up all the latest social media platforms. I agree there feels like there is pressure to join them all for fear of missing out but I honestly don't have time to commit to all of the properly. I think you're spot on that good writing is the most important thing and that it should be truthful, from the heart

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    1. I don't have time either, Laura. And to be frank, even if I did I really don't think I would join in with them all. I find some of them boring and not my cuppa tea, Google+ included I'm afraid *runs away and hides*

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  17. Here, have a lilo. It's much comfier. Then we can just float along, enjoying the view :-)

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  18. I blog almost as a way of keeping a diary. I've tried the traditional way and always forget at the end of the day. For my blog i do it while checking my e-mails, or on facebook. I link it to my FB page and when i remember to my twitter account, but its not really for the advertising. I've been very lucky to have lots of people ask me to do reviews for their books. This has come about since i wrote my 1st review and that was for your book. I now write the reviews on my blog and include them in various other plpaces such as goodreads.
    My blog will always remain about my thoughts and activities, it is sometimes sporadic, but my life follows that pattern. Sometimes i do the same thing regularly and at others i'll have a time wehre i don't do very much.
    Enjoy your blog for what it is, somewhere to share your life as often or not as you feel comfortable.

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    1. You have to write what you feel comfortable with on your blog - it's your own personal space. (And thank you for reviewing my book ;))

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  19. I'm with you on this kind of situation. However I don't know if I will blogpost the autistic disorder of my daughter or struggles and many problems that arised in dealing with disablities. Maybe one day I'll be brave enough just like you to post the difficulties so that others may learn from them.

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    1. The reason why I blog about my autistic daughter is to raise awareness, which is vitally important, especially to people who know nothing about autism.

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  20. I have not logged into blogger for 9 months at least. I needed a break! I am with you. Its so hard to stay motivated and excited about blogging when there is so much to worry about. I don't have the time or means to put into my blogs and get any kind of return. I don't have a vast follower base, and I've come to accept that I probably never will. I think I learned the hard way that I do not have the disposition to be an "avid" or "career blogger". I have mine linked to facebook and all of that good stuff, but honestly, I rarely interact with facebook. I'd rather just write. That is what I enjoy doing, and that is why I started... to write. A good way to ruin something for me is to put pressure behind it. Anyway, you're not alone! I'm still around, and I've started blogging again. I just don't plan on setting myself to any kind of commitments or schedules. I'll blog when I feel good and ready to do so! :)

    PS How's the second book going? Or are you done already?

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    1. Nine months? I'd have had serious withdrawal symtoms, lol. Seriously though, I did say I was going to take a long break from blogging but then realised I love it too much!

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  21. I believe that it is intention that makes or breaks the pleasure of blogging! If you do it purely to beat the lists and be the top it becomes nothing more than a chore. And a bit pointless really. If you blog with honest pleasure in something to share and as a person who likes to interact with others then that's where the pleasure lies. Ultimately, you have to blog just for you and your connection to those you choose to connect to - not because it's a race!

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    1. Exactly. It is pointless if all you're blogging for is to be involved in lists and be the top of everything. Some bloggers are well worthy of being just that but they don't let rankings bother them. Others do, and that's when I find it quite sad that blogging has taken this competitive angle.

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  22. You've hit the nail on the head with regards to how I am feeling at the mo.
    Thanks for a great post
    x

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    1. I would guestimate that a lot of bloggers feel this way right now, especially the ones who have been blogging for a number of years.

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  23. I am not bothered if I get an award, don't care about being ranked or in a list. Self-aggrandisement isn't in my makeup. Am not impressed by people who apparently have hundreds of followers - strange how they only ever have a couple of dozen or so comments though! I only blog about books, what I have read, looking for ideas for new writers from other readers and so on. Get a bit disheartened when only one or two comments and think I may as well be talking to myself. I will probably give up the blog later this year simply because I get bored easily.
    What annoys me is when I comment on other people's blogs and they don't have the decency to acknowledge it. Again, the feeling you are talking to yourself or your thoughts etc., aren't worth anything.
    I don't see why blogging should be 'hard work'. Isn't it meant to be a pleasurable activity? Maybe it's hard work if you are trying to gather a huge following, make a blog that stands out from the rest. There are quite a few crafty ones that stand out and I appreciate the time and effort that went into them, but never thought of them as being hard work. Maybe the fact I have only 22 followers on my book blog is reflective of the fact that (a) I'm doing something wrong (b) I'm boring (c)I don't put enough effort in. Don't care anyway really. Just enjoy writing about the books I have read, but as I say, getting a bit bored with it all now really. It seems to be taken so seriously by some people and I just don't get it.

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    1. You see, Maggie, this is something I find odd as well. If your blog is being followed by thousands, then why don't those people comment on it? The majority of my followers don't even read my blog anymore and some have probably only dipped into it once, in order for me to pop along to theirs and follow back, thus increasing their numbers.

      Blogging should not be hard work and it never used to be, it used to be a pleasure and an enjoyment. Now however, it is turning into a competition and a bitchfest of who has the best blog without needing to pimp it too often. I've seen it over and over again on social media.

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  24. I have really struggled with blogging over the past few months with being ill in early pregnancy. It is hard to keep up and it is a lot more competitive than from when I started almost 3 years ago.

    I still maintain as long as you blog and you blog from the heart, people will come and if they don't you have a great record and somewhere to write. Your blog is great and you don't have to keep up with everyone, you just need to enjoy it. Hugs x

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    1. You have an excuse! The time when I felt I had to keep up has passed, but I do still feel I need to be out there in order to be "in the circle", if that sense.

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  25. Really good post CJ and for all the right reasons. Blogging IS hard these days BUT it's up to the individual blogger to do what they feel comfortable with. Just because everyone else is shouting about their blog on twitter or G+ it doesn't mean it's right and sometimes it's just noise which is less beneficial.

    I enjoy the community aspect of blogging and social media but I do feel that we have come full circle with regards comments and I'm going to write a post about that very soon.

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    1. Totally agree - that noise doesn't often reach the right ears.

      I love the community aspect, too, and especially love being a part of Parent Bloggers, as you know. I used to love (and be addicted to) Twitter but recently I've started getting a bit bored with it. Like Brian says above, friends come and go and it's the same in social media.

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  26. Oh, I hear you. I am getting tired these days of the frantic run of social media and the constant promo (myself included!). I'm starting to take a step back from it all and allow myself time to breathe!

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    1. Time to breathe is a good idea, Talli! Sometimes, we feel like we're drowning in a sea of social media promotions!

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  27. I saw on Twitter you seemed a bit down, so, came over here to cheer you up. A couple of one-liners for you...

    If you hate moody people...don't date the Town Crier!

    People say follow your dreams ... until you start sleep walking!

    Ignore 90% of the social chatter and keep blogging 'cos it's fun!

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    1. You're right, it is fun, and I intend to keep it that way.

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  28. I have days when I think about stopping and when I feel overwhelmed by the rapid pace of change, and then I just pull back and concentrate on the writing again, which is why I started the blog in the first place. Less promotion and more writing works for me, oh and I really hope you keep going too, the blogging community needs you xx

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    1. I will keep blogging; have tried to take a break and failed! I love the writing best too, and sometimes spend ages on a blog post, perfecting it and editing it to within an inch of its life!

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  29. I actually don't think all of the extra stuff is necessary. Do it if you want to, do it if you enjoy it, if you don't, stop. A lot of things which annoy people in life (be it in the blogging world or outside) are actually self imposed pressures when you really analyse them. I think life and blogging is as simple as you want it to be.

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    1. I don't think it is either, which is why I blogged about it. If your blog is good enough you shouldn't really have to keep promoting it, but know many of us do. And I agree with you; blogging should be, and is, as simple as you want it to be.

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  30. I have been posting less and less lately. Part of it is because it doesn't interest me as much as before, and partly it's because life gets in the way, leaving little time for writing, but most of it is because I cannot say what is really going on. Because it's not about me although it involves me completely. Ah . . . such is life, eh?

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    1. It is difficult sometimes isn't it. There's lots going on behind closed doors in my life too, but I can't blog about it as its much too private. Sometimes I'd like to run an anonymous blog but there will always be someone who works out who are, usually someone who you'd rather not!

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  31. I reckon "blog and let blog". I started my blog mama-andmore.com 3 years ago just after my daughter was born, and I certainly don't have tonnes of followers, nor half as many comments as I might like, but ultimately I started writing because I enjoy writing. I link onto twitter, and post onto my Facebook page, but that's it. In a way blogging with the expectation of having zillions of followers is rather like singing in the shower and expecting a record deal. It would be nice, but it happens very rarely, and only after being incredibly dedicated to it (and getting out of the shower!). Those people who nonchalantly claim that they have tonnes of followers organically are putting a lot of hard work into it, and good for them. Some of us who read blogs, and comment on them still don't get the reciprocity, but that doesn't mean we should stop writing... . or singing in the shower either. Do it until you don't love it any more.

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    1. I like the blog and let blot attitude. No one has a right to tell another what to blog. I used to put much more work into blogging than I do now.

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  32. I find myself using platforms less and less these days, I seriously don't have the time I would like to spend on Google+, Twitter and FB and something has to give. I would rather spend that time wisely on commenting on blogs that have shown me support, like yours! Thanks very much for featuring me on your list of Parent Blogs by the way. Much appreciated! Emma :)

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  33. I love this post. Blogging is to be enjoyed, not to be stressful! I'm doing the backstroke too. x

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