Imagine the scene; you've moved into your partner's house with all your stuff and he gives you full rein of the wardrobes, drawers and crevices he has used to hoard his belongings for the past few decades. You are quite shocked when you open the drawers and find a ridiculous amount of what you would describe as outdated tat, crammed in small spaces that is very obviously no longer needed, no longer used and just kept for no reason other than your partner has never bothered having a clear out. When you mention the outdated items you've found, your partner looks at you as if you've got two heads and claims he didn't know the stuff was in there anyway. Do you...
a) offer to clear it out for him, patiently asking what he does or doesn't want..
b) offer to clear it out for him, pulling your face every time he says he wants to keep something that is caked in dust and never been used for donkey's years..
c) not offer to clear it out, watch him go off to work waving sweetly from the window, then grab a few bin bags and do it yourself. After all, if it's stuff he didn't even know was in there, is he going to miss it?
NB, I'm not being sexist by referring to partner as a 'him', before you mention it!
I do option a) and every time it leaves me wishing I had gone straight for c) as that is what he says I should do but with a nostalgic gesture. In summary, every time it quickly becomes a case of b), which is why we start at a) yet again a couple of years later. It's a vicious circle in this household I tell you.
ReplyDeleteLol! I agree with Feisty Tapas, if you do a, you will wish you'd done c. I would go for an in-between of b and c. I would clear it out, and keep a box worth of items you think he might treasure. Then ask him what he wants to keep from the box. Make him part with half.
ReplyDeleteBut I am married to a man who is always trying to throw out all my stuff, so maybe my response says more about my emotional state. :D
Sod it ... I say C. My other half is a terrible hoarder, and I just cant be bothered asking him whether he wants to keep stuff anymore, so I say chuck it out, especially if he cant remember it anymore. I'm taking a hardline here ... but its such a bug bear of mine!
ReplyDeleteGo for c) - some of it probably belonged to his parents anyway and he doesn't even know about. Be selective though and save him a few memories from his past (which obviously you will do).
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ReplyDeleteHahaaaaa....MY MO is (C)!!!
ReplyDeleteHappy weekend!
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I do option A, wishing I'd done option C but he turns it into option B every single time!
ReplyDeleteD) not mention a clear out is taking place and slowly get rid of it without him noticing.
ReplyDeletenone of the above I'm afraid! I would clear it all into boxes and stash in an attic ior shed or similar then it is cleared but not got rid of!
Deletehaha....c is probably the best option...just saying...smiles.
ReplyDeleteLoving that most of you are a C like me! Thanks for commenting x
ReplyDeleteC! Definitely!
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ReplyDeleteNeither!!
My answer d) Leave it there and shut the cupboard doors! LOL
I am a natural hoarder and hate chucking stuff out!! Just build a new cupboard now and then LOL
Thanks for you lovely comment on my penultimate post ~Hugs Eddie
I would definitely employ choice C. It's sort of sneaky but...needs must!
ReplyDeleteOffer to help him clear out, and if he doesn't take the offer, DIY and stick the binbags in the grain/lambing shed. By next August he'll have chucked them out himself :-) Result!
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